Using the Power Within you!

Do you often feel sad? Do you feel there is something wrong, and things can be better? Do you feel life is very tough? Well...you are not alone. But then, this is definitely not how you wanted it to be. It is a small life, try not to ruin it. And trust me – there is a POWER WITHIN you, and it is enough to cure everything. You only have to harness it...

We are responsible for what we are. And we are not responsible for what others are doing to us. However, it is very disheartening to see that many times, we are depressed in life only because of things that others are doing. I mean... if something is not in our hands, why we should be upset about it? On the contrary, there are many things that are in our hands, but we hardly pay any attention.

In this post, I am going to talk about some things that are in YOUR hands. You can try to do some of these and feel the difference. Together, I call it the “power within” us. Most of the following advice is tried and tested. Whenever I feel sad in life, I always see that the “power within” helps a lot. So, here are some of my suggestions as to how you can harness the power within you!

Respect

The first thing that comes in the list is – respect. Actually, it is the most important tool that you can use to make life easy for you. You should respect yourself, but you should also give respect to others. When you respect others, you accept their point of view. You may not have to change your own point, but you must accept that there can be difference of opinion. As a result of this, respect must not perish. I will give you some instances.

Often, your parents tell you to do something that you may not like. Sometimes, you feel that if you actually listen to them, it is going to be bad for you. What do we do? The most common answer is – we lie...and we hide. As a result of this, life becomes very tough. What you should do is to talk to them. And you’ll feel good when they agree to your viewpoint. And if they don’t – you respect their decision.

In the Ramayana, we see that Lord Ram was sent to 14 years in exile – for no fault of his. He did not argue, and made the sacrifice – for his father. This is not practically possible in today’s world. But we can definitely make smaller sacrifices. There is no point in living a life under cover. Be what you are. When we make multiple facets, we lose the original self!

Therefore, in case of conflict – respect others’ view. You will feel light-hearted and relaxed.

Apologise

Another most powerful tool that you have within you – which you can use to make life easier – is to apologise. Since our childhood we’ve been hearing that saying sorry does not make a person small. The truth is – it makes a person bigger on the contrary! Because when you apologise, you accept that you have made a mistake and are ready for the consequences.

Many times, when we make mistakes, we tend to ignore and avoid. Let us take a simple example – suppose you have been asked to finish a task in the given time, and you could not. And your boss calls you for explanation, what do we do? Don’t pick up the call? Or say you’re busy? This will only complicate everything. The point is – you should be open to say I am sorry, this makes things simple, believe me!

Forgive and Forget

To forgive is equally helpful. It is possible that someone hurts us. But to retain those grudges within you is very bad. Recall what I had written in the beginning of this post – we should not be affected because of how others behave, since we cannot control it. However, we can control how we behave, and we can manipulate it so that we make our life comfortable.

When someone hurts you, it is natural to develop resentment towards them. Our character changes as a result of this. We tend to see the negative aspect in everything. We tend to see how people are bad. This gives more and more pain. Try to forgive someone, you will feel relieved and relaxed. I am not saying this for them; I am saying this for you!

Let us take another simple example. Suppose you had a very bad fight with someone you loved. Let us also assume that you have been ditched, and cheated. How are you supposed to react? It is quite natural that you’re never going to like that person again. However, you will keep thinking about it. As long as you retain that glitch in your heart, you are not going to make life easy. For once, try to forgive that person (even though he may not ask for an apology!), and see how you make yourself different.

When you forgive, you make yourself sacred. You are the giver. You can sacrifice. You can make people comfortable, and you are a good person!

Help

A very big feel-good factor is – Help. Always offer a helping hand to people in need. They may not say thank you, but you will feel good. Trust me.

You don’t trust me? Well...take a simple experiment today. Often, when we are on the roads, we see people who stretch out their hands to ask for a lift. How many of us would stop and offer help? I do it sometimes, and it feels good. Try doing it, and you will see how much difference you will make in your life when you help others.

Many times, either genuinely or otherwise, we do not help the people in need only because we are very much occupied with our own problems. But what we don’t understand is – helping others would solve your own problems too! When you help someone, there is goodness inside you. You have a reason to live. People want you to live. They will help you back.... God will help you!

Gratitude

Be open to say thank you! Accept what you’ve got is a result of combined effort. Nothing is achieved alone. Nothing is accomplished without help and support. Help is self-less. When someone helps, they don’t actually ask for anything in return. But there is something you must give them – you must accept their contribution. You must thank them!

When you do this, they will feel good. And believe me, if someone can smile because of you, that is when we say you’ve got a life! If you have achieved everything, you’ve done all the great tasks, scored all the great marks but never said thank you, you are a self-obsessed person. And such people are potential dangers to the society. Don’t be like that.

There is another reason why you should be grateful. When you express gratitude, it brings a sense of positivity in you. You tend to see the good things in people. And that makes you a class apart. There are few persons who appreciate others, and many who appreciate themselves. That is why there are few persons who get the respect they deserve. It is for us to choose!

The power within you!

There are thousands of reasons why you can complaint. But it takes a little effort to address them. A simple mantra is – to stop expecting from others, and to start giving more than what is expected from you! Feel good in life...

May everyone live a happy and peaceful life! May everyone keep on smiling!

Yours forever,

Palkesh Asawa